In 1975 when I married Dave, I wore my mother’s wedding
dress. It was of cream-colored satin
with long sleeves, a fitted torso, and flared skirt. Simple and lovely. Tradition comforts me, and I felt the dress was
a link to my young parents and their day in St. Louis twenty-three years
before.
My bridesmaids wore long blue and white gingham dresses with
square necklines and puffed sleeves, the epitome of seventies prairie splendor.
I so loved those Gunne Sax creations that Dave bought me one as a wedding
present. It was the perfect outfit for
Colonial Easton Day when I wore it last, eighteen years ago.
Mom has our shared dress wrapped in tissue, stored in a long
white box up in the attic or in a closet somewhere, but, while a fifties dress
worked well in the seventies, it’s not going to fly in 2016, so with glee and
wonderment, I’ve tagged along with Casey on her quest for THE dress.
“The Plumed Serpent” conjures a haughty, feathered
snake. Purple perhaps, with emerald
eyes, and a flickering black tongue, a sidekick for Aladdin’s genii. Nowhere in the words lies the flounce of a
wedding gown, yet Casey’s search began at a shop of that name. Karis, Casey’s maid of honor and traveling
partner in Asia, and Lisa, her dear friend and cousin Trevor’s wife, joined us
for this opening plunge.
Was champagne offered?
Yes it was, and we were thrilled with our treat as Karis, Lisa, and I
settled on a sofa in front of a low stage before an expansive mirror, while my
daughter disappeared into a dressing room with the consultant.
Shortly, Casey returned, smiling sheepishly and rustling in layer
upon layer of tulle. It was not my
girl’s style or choice, but she looked pretty and amused, and wasn’t that part
of the process, to play princess and see what might work?
Next, she shimmied forth in a form-fitting lace number, and
then, in an ice-white movie-star sheath. In each, she looked beautiful, but never
captivated, and every time she re-appeared, I scanned her face for a sign that
something in this or that dress had what she wanted. There was a flicker of interest in a gown with
Grecian lines, but the cut was such she couldn’t get it over her hips, which
was discouraging and underscored the challenge and risk inherent in this
mission.
For, unlike every other clothing purchase, wedding shops
carry only one sample, one size, of each gown, so even a likely prospect
entails guesswork. To give some clue as to
how the finished product might look, the consultant clamps, cinches, and belts
loose fabric. If the dress is too small,
it stays unzipped or unbuttoned, held together by clamps connected by ribbons, just
enough to give a vague sense of its effect.
Can you imagine? Such jimmying
and jamming of flesh and fabric, and still the bride-to-be must take a leap of
faith that the addition or removal of panels, lace, straps, and sequins, will
produce the effect she wants for her wedding day.
While we did not find a dress, the Plumed Serpent was an
excellent introduction, and armed with new insights, Casey made an appointment
at Kleinfelds in New York. Have you seen
“Say Yes to the Dress?” I have not, but
Kleinfelds is the setting for this popular reality show, and while the store
has been an institution for years, it has gained celebrity through television
exposure.
The day of our visit was bitter cold, and newscasters had
solemnly warned listeners to bundle up.
People pudgy in fleece, wool, and gender-neutral parkas raced briskly to
restaurants and coffee shops. Noses
peeked from multi-wrapped scarves and woolen hats pulled low over brows and
ears. Heavy socks and Uggs were featured footwear, except for Casey who opted
for thin socks and Frye boots. “My toes
are freezing,” she groaned. “What was I thinking?”
She was thinking of chiffon and lace of course, and with
relief, we spotted Kleinfelds and hustled inside.
This, most surely, was a temple to marriage. The reception area was cavernous, with a
lofty ceiling supported by Corinthian columns, their capitals ornate with
curling plaster leaves. A graceful white
orchid and green mosses sprouted from huge urns. To the left of the front desk, a stately
mannequin, chin thrust skyward, shoulders proud, her face a mask of ennui, stood
resolute beneath the weight of great waterfalls of satin that, to my thinking,
would slow a bride down.
My daughter sat beside me on a velvet loveseat, flipping through
bridal magazines while we waited. Her
long auburn hair tumbled over her parka-padded shoulders as she dabbed on some
lip-gloss. “Nice shade,” I said.
“’Infallible’,” she replied, brandishing the tube so I could
see the name on the side.
I gazed at my girl, lovely in any case, spruced up with
mascara, eye shadow, and “Infallible,” to emulate her wedding-day look as she
tried on dresses. I could feel the
prickle in my nose, a little sting in my eyes.
“You look beautiful, Sweetie,” I said.
She tilted her head to one side and smiled a baby sloth smile. My dear one.
“Hello! I’m
Diane! I’ll be your consultant
today!” We snapped to attention and
shook hands with a reed-thin woman dressed in a stylish black pantsuit and
heels. Her blond hair was long, with bangs
cut straight across her brow, and I guessed she was about my age. Her smile was broad, many-teeth-broad, as she
led us into the showroom in back and chatted with Casey about her wedding
plans, venue, budget, and design preferences.
The two of them headed for the dressing room and left me to survey my
surroundings.
After hugs and pleasantries, Karis’s eyes drifted from mine
and focused somewhere over my shoulder.
“Oooooh! Sparkly things!” she
cooed. I followed her gaze to a lavender
wall of arched niches lined with shelves of brilliant accessories. “Disneyland for ladies!” crowed Karis as she
tried on a jeweled tiara, admired pearl-encrusted combs, and ran a finger
beneath pairs of dangling earrings.
“What’s this?” she asked a salesperson while placing an intricately
woven headpiece, a “Juliet cap,” it turned out, over her hair. “Perfect for pilates, don’t you think?” she
said.
“Karis!” called Casey as she and Diane swept into the
room. The girls hugged and squealed a
bit, then Casey mounted the platform for our viewing. The dress she modeled was “light and airy”
according to Diane, but to me, the peach-colored satin was flimsy as a
nightie. None of us loved it, so they
returned to the dressing room for the next round. While I preferred a fitted
white dress with a ruched bodice, Casey liked a cappuccino lace. “I look pretty in this, I think,” she said,
but her tone was flat, her expression, uninspired.
And Karis and I knew what we wanted to see in Casey’s face,
for one mirror over, we’d witnessed another girl’s moment of discovery.
The woman was pleasant looking, short, and stocky, probably
in her late twenties. Her brunette hair
was caught in a messy knot on the back of her head. The dress she chose – a strapless sequined
bodice with a voluminous multi-layered skirt of scratchy tulle - was nothing
either of us would have selected. But
as she twirled and swished, her hands buried in the folds of her dress, her
smile brightening to rapture, her radiance filled the room. “This is it!” she exclaimed, clapping her
hands and jumping up and down, delighted as a child. She loved
herself in that dress. Hearts full,
Karis and I grinned at each other, and clapped along with everyone in the vast
room. As the young woman retreated to
the dressing room to change, reluctant
to change, her reflection flowed with her from one mirror to the next, and she
beamed at every glorious vision of herself as she passed.
That is what I
want to see when my daughter finds her
dress.
15 comments:
I love the picture of your parents on their wedding day! It was much simpler then. Now, there are so many varieties. I am amazed that it can be narrowed to one perfect choice, but I am sure Casey will find it. Enjoy the hunt!
I went through the Kleinfelds experience too and found my dress there--love your description because I still remember the feeling and the look on my face when I found THE dress!! Casey will find it and there is so much fun in the searching :) Love reading your posts!
Oh, I LOVED this entry - a subject I know nothing about and which you captured so honestly and descriptively. xo
I loved this story... it read like a thriller... couldn't stop!! You need to write a book Lea!! Can't wait to read the next one about, hopefully, finding THE DRESS!!
Dearest Lea, Wow!! The mother of the bride... that in and of itself is a wonderful vision! You write so very beautiful! Bringing us right into the room with you. I do hope Casey has found HER/THE dress!
Sending you and Dave big virtual hugs! Cheers, Robin
Excuse me... a typo in this environment is so inappropriate. That was supposed to say you write beautifully! Xoxo
Dear Lea!
Here as you describe Casey's hunt for the "DRESS," you so capture the experience that I know Erica went through and all brides these days go thru! I can actually remember my hunt for the "DRESS" many years ago, and although my mom and I went to fancy places, I found the dress of my dreams at a small bridal shop in White Plains, NY, where I could rifle through their racks of dresses till I found the one of my dreams. So many more choices these days! Not only for dresses but accessories!
I know Casey will find the dress of her dreams and look and feel absolutely gorgeous on the day of her marriage, as she is a beautiful young woman, outside and inside! Good luck Casey, finding your dress. I know you will!!! with love, annie
The search continues! Thanks for all the good wishes and hugs! XXOO
These photos! OMG I just LOVE them! Your parents were like movie stars! And then you and Dave -- so young and glorious both. I can feel the fun in these photos. (and those bridesmaid dresses - woo!) What an adventure. I too look forward to final word on the DRESS! xxxx Tricia
Hi Lea, I, too, wore my mother's wedding gown, so the shopping thing was a totally new experience for me, too. Our daughter lives in CA, so I went out there to help her search for a dress. We watched "Say Yes to the Dress" before going, and I was horrified, terrified, at what some of the brides were willing to pay. Happily, Sarah and I were on the same page about price! We went to a place in Santa Barbara and had a wonderful time, and Sarah DID find her dress there. Just right. You will both know the dress when she finds it. It is fun to see them play dress up for a while, though!
I remember when Melinda wore the wedding dress her Mom and her Mom's older sister wore on her wedding day. Loved the pic of your folks and of You and Dave on your wedding day. Your writing is exquisite, your gift for story telling sublime!!!
What a cheerleader! Thanks David! And I have loved hearing others' wedding dress hunt experiences! Thanks for yours, Katie!
Hi Lea! I went on Casey's Facebook page because I somehow deleted her contact info from my phone and was going to text her to see how the dress hunt is going and came across your blog. I cannot tell you how much I love it and your beautiful Casey. Your writing is amazing and what a gift for her. As the days tick by I'm getting more and more excited for the big day. I'm just so grateful that my son will be spending the rest of his life with someone as amazing, beautiful (inside and out) and special as your precious Casey. I love and adore her! We are blessed!
Thank you Janine! What a great surprise to see you here! Believe me, even before PJ and Casey were dating, there were those in the family saying, "I want Casey to marry PJ!" And here we are! Happiness! XO
Lea, I had no idea the Plumbed Serpent was still in Westport! Will have to check it out. As usual, you get to the emotional heart of every situation, even one already fraught with feelings. What a great Mom you are. Casey is a lucky girl.
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